Ugly Betty
Credits: Nevra/Liamso let me get this straight, you're falling for a woman who lives out of town, and lives with the father of her first child, and she just recently gave birth to a child that doesn't belong to the man shes already living with
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i mean no disrespect but you're an idiot. seriously you are being played and as smart as you are, i don't see how you cant see that you are going to end up hurt when you finally realize whats right in your face or when she all of a sudden calls you one day to have a "talk".
i know it sounds crazy from the outside looking in, and this is exactly why i didn't want to bring up all the details because i know how bad it sounds, but i thought i could trust you enough not to judge the way that you are, you don't know her and you're sort of bashing her, which is making me a little upset.
yea, you are crazy. I'm your friend I'm going to tell you what i think, not what you want to hear. I hope for the sake of your big heart that I'm wrong, but i seriously doubt that i am. you are hands down the smartest man i know, but a complete idiot when it comes to love and relationships. sounds to me like you are in love with an idea. this is the same girl that played you in the past, while you were busy spilling your guts out to her she stayed in the arms of other guys and told you that the distance wouldn't allow you two to have a real relationship, now somehow you believe that's changed?
i should have never said anything to you because now you are starting to piss me off
piss you off? you can be mad at me all you want, you are the one who use to tell me the only time the truth hurts is when you are living a lie, and its time for you to take a double dose of your own words. if anything you are a matter of convenience to her, she may feel some type of way about herself because she has two kids, and whatever else her situation is, but the second a local version of you pops up shes going to put you to the side... again.
you're wrong. you aren't exactly the best at relationship choices either. the woman you are with now pulled a gun on you , and is physically abusive, do i need to go down a check list of the super crazy shit you have done to be with this woman that makes you happy?
you can bring all that up if you want, it still wont change the truth that you refuse to see. do you honestly believe that there is nothing going on between her and the man that lives with her? what about the father of the child she just had? you only know what she tells you, you believe what you choose to. it all sounds like a disaster waiting to happen and i don't see how you cant see that you don't fit anywhere in that puzzle.
i have no way of proving anything, you're right, all i really can do is take her word for it. i know her, whatever it is that we are doing right now doesn't have to make sense to you or anyone else. i respect your opinion on the matter but its one that is based on a lopsided view. I've known her for years, she isn't perfect, she has her demons and flaws but you know what? shes never hid any of that from me, shes always been open and honest even if that means that its going to hurt me. its way too easy to say what you would do in a situation that you aren't in and that's why not once did i judge you for your actions when you were sitting in the mental health hospital for trying to kill yourself over that girl . you don't have to agree with how I'm handling this situation, i really don't care how you feel about it because i cant live my life to please your views. if all of this is one huge mistake, I'm willing to accept that but for now it feels right to me.
i just want you to be happy. you are a good guy and you spend a lot of time trying to find happiness in the wrong places. i just don't think this situation is good for you. i thought she sealed her fate with you when she got pregnant, after you two had that huge falling out. I'm not questioning your love for her, i just don't want to see your face when you find out she doesn't feel the same. we both know that she says she loves you, the only difference is you believe her, i don't.
since my relationship with her isn't about what you believe, i don't think its possible for me to care any less than what i do right now about what you think.
you cared what i thought before you knew my opinion would be what it is. do me a favor ask her if shes your girlfriend, i promise she'll say no.
shes not my girlfriend so of course shes going to say no.
exactly, shes not your girlfriend, its not even possible for her to be, look at the situation for what it is. I'm just glad shes not bold enough to dupe you into thinking that you two are together. at this point its clear that we aren't going to see the same side of the coin on this one. i hope you aren't too mad at me, i do wish you the best of luck with this though.
no you don't.
You are being played.
Keep doing what you're doing if you want to - just as long as you know that you're being played.
if that turns out to be the truth of this matter, ill be sure to blog about it but as dumb as this makes me look to everyone around me (and even me sometimes) im going to stay the course until i reach the destination. even if its failure that awaits the finish line.
If you are settling, or convincing yourself you are happy, with someone who lives with someoen else, has multiple children by multiple men, and has a history of mistreating you... Dude, ANYONE deserves a better partner than that.
Believe me when I say you can have a girl who is faithful, whom you can trust fully (those children are proof she can't be trusted by anyone), and who treats you not just well but great.
Move on to something better.